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Sindhi
Wedding
Though families of all girls (irrespective of caste or creed)
worry about sending off the girl into unknown homes, the Sindhi
community makes a formal occasion of checking out the boy's
home before entering into an engagement. Though the rites
are simple, the girl's family sees the boy, approve of him.
Kachchi
Misri
After the approval of both the families, the first formal
ceremony takes place. The girl/boy is given mishri and coconut
to signify that she/he is the one, who belongs to the other
family. This is called Kuchcha shagun or Kachchi Misri.
Pakki Mishri
The Rishta is finalised with Pakki Misri, where the girl's
family sends sweets to the boy's family. The formal engagement
ceremony takes place a week before the wedding. The boy and
the girl exchange rings and there is a get together of family
members and close friends.
Berana
Ten days before the wedding, a satsang in the name of the
Sindhi God, Jhulelal is organised. This is called Berana.
It signifies the start of the ceremonies for the forthcoming
wedding.
Mehendi
Mehendi ceremony where the girl's hands and feet are adorned
with pretty mehendi patterns. At this time the women in the
family get together, play music. Folk songs are also sung
on this day. On this day is the Wanwas. In this the girl and
the boy are asked to wear their old clothes, which are torn
and discarded once the ceremony is over. These clothes are
then wrapped into a bag and thrown into the sea/river.
Santh
'Santh' is the ceremony where seven married women put oil
on the girl's head. It is performed the night before the wedding.
The bride is then asked to break the cover of an earthen pot
placed before her in one go. If she succeeds, it is considered
to be a good sign.
Sangeet
Party
Like the bachelor party hosted by the groom's side there is
a party, which the bride gives her girlfriends as a maiden
called the ladies sangeet.
Saagri
The Saagri or showering of the bride with flowers is performed
on the same evening. The groom's married sisters, cousins
and the small children from his side go to the bride's place
with the jewellery made of mogra.The sisters dress the bride
in a silk saree and then adorn her with all the flower jewellery.
In the night the groom visits the bride's house where he is
showered with garlands. A feast is held for the family. This
ceremony signifies the blessings, which are showered on the
bride in the form of flowers.
Ghari
Puja
Ghari Puja is carried out in the respective homes of the couple.
The priest performs the prayers with rice, coconut, wheat
grains, oil, betel nuts, turmeric and a number of other spices.
Married ladies grind wheat on a small old-fashioned grinder
symbolising that the home will always be prosperous. The groom
offers a handful of grains to the priest indicating he will
always give to charity and look after those less fortunate
than himself. The mothers of both the bride and groom dress
up in their bridal finery. Carrying an earthen pot of water
on their heads, they walk to the threshold of their homes.
The sons-in-law of the respective families cut the water with
a knife to ward off any evil spirits. Their friends and relatives
adorn the parents with garlands of flowers and money. The
bride and groom wear old clothes that are torn off by their
friends and family members amidst merriment, illustrating
the end of their old life.
Wedding
rituals
Traditional Rituals
The wedding day begins with a series of traditional rituals.
The first is the thread ceremony, without which the wedding
is incomplete. Oil and haldi is applied to the groom's hair
and body and from then, he cannot move out of the house. His
brother-in-law sits next to him with a knife, symbolic of
a protector. Similarly, the bride too goes through a haldi
and oil massage ritual at her place. Haldi is meant to work
as a cleanser and purifier. The bride too is not allowed to
leave the house after this ceremony.
Swagatam
After the bride dresses up in her wedding ensemble, her sisters
or female relatives escort the groom to the bride's house.
At the entrance, the groom places his right foot on the top
of the bride's foot, signifying that he should be the dominating
strength in their life together. After the groom enters the
house, the bride's parents rinse his feet with milk and water.
It is believed that due to all the prayers that have preceded
this moment, the groom is an embodiment of Lord Vishnu on
this wedding day.
Hathialo
In this ceremony, the corner of the bride's sari is tied to
a scarf, which is worn by the groom. The right hands of the
couple are tied with a thread that has been blessed with religious
incantations. The typing of the hands signifies an eternal
bond that will join them forever. The couple then prays to
the Gods to give them strength and bless their union.
The Wedding
Ceremony
The wedding ceremony is performed by the priest in the presence
of family and friends. The bride and groom are seated in front
of a holy fire and the priest recites various religious sayings
from the Holy Scriptures. According to the Hindu religion,
fire is considered the sustainer of life. It is believed that
the Gods and Goddesses sit around this auspicious fire. The
priest directs various family members to give offerings into
the holy fire. The couple walks around the fire four times
exchanging vows of duty and love, fidelity, respect and a
fruitful union. The groom then places the brides hand on his
forehead, to denote that he accepts her as his wife for better
of for worse, in health or in sickness and that it his destiny
to marry her. The couples heads are held together implying
that although they are separate individuals, from this day
onwards, they are one in body, mind and spirit.
Kanya
Daan
The bride's parents entrust their daughter in the safe keeping
of the groom and his family.
Post-wedding
rituals
Datar
After friends and family have greeted the couple, they leave
for the groom's house. At the entrance of their new home the
groom's parents rinse the bride's feet. A cover is placed
over her head as she sprinkles milk in all corners of the
house. The bride picks up a handful of salt and places it
in the hands of her husband. He passes it back into her hands
without spilling any salt, this is done three times. Similarly,
the "Datar" is carried out with all members of the
groom's family. Exchanging salt symbolises that just as salt
blends in and gives taste to food, so must the bride blend
in and become a part of her new family.
Sindhi
Wedding
Though families of all girls (irrespective of caste or creed)
worry about sending off the girl into unknown homes, the Sindhi
community makes a formal occasion of checking out the boy's
home before entering into an engagement. Though the rites
are simple, the girl's family sees the boy, approve of him.
Kachchi
Misri
After the approval of both the families, the first formal
ceremony takes place. The girl/boy is given mishri and coconut
to signify that she/he is the one, who belongs to the other
family. This is called Kuchcha shagun or Kachchi Misri.
Pakki Mishri
The Rishta is finalised with Pakki Misri, where the girl's
family sends sweets to the boy's family. The formal engagement
ceremony takes place a week before the wedding. The boy and
the girl exchange rings and there is a get together of family
members and close friends.
Berana
Ten days before the wedding, a satsang in the name of the
Sindhi God, Jhulelal is organised. This is called Berana.
It signifies the start of the ceremonies for the forthcoming
wedding.
Mehendi
Mehendi ceremony where the girl's hands and feet are adorned
with pretty mehendi patterns. At this time the women in the
family get together, play music. Folk songs are also sung
on this day. On this day is the Wanwas. In this the girl and
the boy are asked to wear their old clothes, which are torn
and discarded once the ceremony is over. These clothes are
then wrapped into a bag and thrown into the sea/river.
Santh
'Santh' is the ceremony where seven married women put oil
on the girl's head. It is performed the night before the wedding.
The bride is then asked to break the cover of an earthen pot
placed before her in one go. If she succeeds, it is considered
to be a good sign. 
Sangeet
Party
Like the bachelor party hosted by the groom's side there is
a party, which the bride gives her girlfriends as a maiden
called the ladies sangeet.
Saagri
The Saagri or showering of the bride with flowers is performed
on the same evening. The groom's married sisters, cousins
and the small children from his side go to the bride's place
with the jewellery made of mogra.The sisters dress the bride
in a silk saree and then adorn her with all the flower jewellery.
In the night the groom visits the bride's house where he is
showered with garlands. A feast is held for the family. This
ceremony signifies the blessings, which are showered on the
bride in the form of flowers.
Ghari
Puja
Ghari Puja is carried out in the respective homes of the couple.
The priest performs the prayers with rice, coconut, wheat
grains, oil, betel nuts, turmeric and a number of other spices.
Married ladies grind wheat on a small old-fashioned grinder
symbolising that the home will always be prosperous. The groom
offers a handful of grains to the priest indicating he will
always give to charity and look after those less fortunate
than himself. The mothers of both the bride and groom dress
up in their bridal finery. Carrying an earthen pot of water
on their heads, they walk to the threshold of their homes.
The sons-in-law of the respective families cut the water with
a knife to ward off any evil spirits. Their friends and relatives
adorn the parents with garlands of flowers and money. The
bride and groom wear old clothes that are torn off by their
friends and family members amidst merriment, illustrating
the end of their old life.
Wedding
rituals
Traditional Rituals
The wedding day begins with a series of traditional rituals.
The first is the thread ceremony, without which the wedding
is incomplete. Oil and haldi is applied to the groom's hair
and body and from then, he cannot move out of the house. His
brother-in-law sits next to him with a knife, symbolic of
a protector. Similarly, the bride too goes through a haldi
and oil massage ritual at her place. Haldi is meant to work
as a cleanser and purifier. The bride too is not allowed to
leave the house after this ceremony.
Swagatam
After the bride dresses up in her wedding ensemble, her sisters
or female relatives escort the groom to the bride's house.
At the entrance, the groom places his right foot on the top
of the bride's foot, signifying that he should be the dominating
strength in their life together. After the groom enters the
house, the bride's parents rinse his feet with milk and water.
It is believed that due to all the prayers that have preceded
this moment, the groom is an embodiment of Lord Vishnu on
this wedding day.
Hathialo
In this ceremony, the corner of the bride's sari is tied to
a scarf, which is worn by the groom. The right hands of the
couple are tied with a thread that has been blessed with religious
incantations. The typing of the hands signifies an eternal
bond that will join them forever. The couple then prays to
the Gods to give them strength and bless their union.
The Wedding
Ceremony
The wedding ceremony is performed by the priest in the presence
of family and friends. The bride and groom are seated in front
of a holy fire and the priest recites various religious sayings
from the Holy Scriptures. According to the Hindu religion,
fire is considered the sustainer of life. It is believed that
the Gods and Goddesses sit around this auspicious fire. The
priest directs various family members to give offerings into
the holy fire. The couple walks around the fire four times
exchanging vows of duty and love, fidelity, respect and a
fruitful union. The groom then places the brides hand on his
forehead, to denote that he accepts her as his wife for better
of for worse, in health or in sickness and that it his destiny
to marry her. The couples heads are held together implying
that although they are separate individuals, from this day
onwards, they are one in body, mind and spirit.
Kanya
Daan
The bride's parents entrust their daughter in the safe keeping
of the groom and his family.
Post-wedding rituals
Datar
After friends and family have greeted the couple, they leave
for the groom's house. At the entrance of their new home the
groom's parents rinse the bride's feet. A cover is placed
over her head as she sprinkles milk in all corners of the
house. The bride picks up a handful of salt and places it
in the hands of her husband. He passes it back into her hands
without spilling any salt, this is done three times. Similarly,
the "Datar" is carried out with all members of the
groom's family. Exchanging salt symbolises that just as salt
blends in and gives taste to food, so must the bride blend
in and become a part of her new family.
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